Cup One

person: Pat—the new director of the Bailey Scholars Program

drink: cup of brewed Maxwell House


I decided to do this blog back in April but waited until July to start. For a multitude of reasons.

Finals week was fast approaching, I was preparing for a six-week study abroad program in Europe, and after a full year of classes, lectures, assignments, papers, and exams, my brain was about as useful as a toaster in the middle of the ocean.

July seemed like the perfect time to start the project so I marked the start date on my calendar, put the idea on a cluttered shelf in my brain, and said bon voyage to America. After six weeks spent enjoying good food and fine wine in Paris, Barcelona, and Italy (and a few weeks recovering) I felt refreshed and ready for this crazy adventure to start. Or so I thought. After I wrote the initial blog post, reality sunk in:

I have to actually email someone and make a plan for coffee.

Of course that thought had crossed my mind during the planning process, but there is a big gap between thinking about something and actually doing it. Like a rickety old rope bridge strung across canyon suspended a hundred feet over a rushing river. It was time to take the first step—leave the solid ground of the thinking side—and head in the direction of doing.

Luckily, a great opportunity presented itself that made the first step a little easier. I’m involved with the Bailey Scholars Program on campus, which is an active community of students working towards a specialization in connected learning. It’s an incredible program that can’t be summed up in a few sentences. Anyways, back to the point, the program director is leaving this fall to pursue a PhD. The new director, Pat, just started coming into the office to learn the ropes so the leadership transition is seamless.

Last week, I was hanging out in the Bailey space when I met Pat for the first time. I’m frequently in the Bailey space and I knew over the course of the upcoming school year I would slowly get to know the new director, but it occurred to me that she would be a perfect start to the project. Why not invite her to coffee, get to know her sooner rather than later, and offer her a warm welcome to her new position.

And that’s exactly what happened. Wednesday morning, we met in the Bailey space, enjoyed a cup of coffee from the Bailey coffee maker (a frequent lifesaver in my life) and got to know each other.

We talked about our backgrounds, the number of siblings we had, where we grew up, what we did for fun, our mutual love for dogs, and a host of other topics that moved us from strangers to acquaintances. Now when we see each other in the space, we won’t just exchange polite hellos. Instead, I can ask her how her two labs are doing or give her an update on one of the projects I told her about. I can also be a familiar face to answer one of the hundreds of questions she’ll likely have as she gets to know her way around the community in the next few months.

Change is never easy. When the current director goes, he will leave big shoes to fill and the atmosphere of the community will be decidedly different, but after having coffee with Pat I am not as nervous about the transition. Now I have a better idea what to expect and I know I am going to like the new director.

I’m going to call the first cup a success. I had an enjoyable time and realized that if I know I am going to be spending a lot of time working with some new, taking a casual hour to get to know the person is a great way to kick things off on the right foot. 

Email

Sent: Monday, July 12, 2010 5:31 PM

Hi P,

It was nice unofficially meeting you today, I was at Karen’s luncheon
and then I hung around the Bailey space afterwards. I should have
formally introduced myself.

I am working on a yearlong blogging project where I have a cup of
coffee with someone new each week. I was wondering if you would like
to get a cup of coffee sometime this week. It would be a great way to
get to know each other!

My schedule is flexible, so if you’re interested, just let me know
what works best for you.

Thanks!
megan

Received: July 12, 2010, at 6:40 PM

Hi Megan,
Coffee sounds good.
Tomorrow I’m free at 11:30am
Wednesday morning at 9:30am
Thursday afternoon at 1:00
Any of these work for you?
-P

Cup One:

Wednesday, July 14th / 65 Ag Hall / 9:30 AM

The Initial Cup

I just turned 22, literally. 12 hours ago, I was 21 and now I am 22 (who wants cake?). To kick off my 22nd year of life, I am embarking on a yearlong project, an experiment if you will, in caffeine and conversation. It’s a fairly basic concept:
 
                        drink 52 cups of coffee over the next year

but not just any cup of coffee (you knew there had to be a catch), another person has to be present, and it can’t be someone that I typically would have coffee with. So in simpler terms: I want to set up coffee meetings with 52 people I wouldn’t normally have coffee with. That could mean anyone from a complete stranger plucked off the street to a connection I’ve been meaning to get to know better.

I’ll find some people through Twitter or LinkedIn, others through suggestions from friends, and hopefully a few will be the result of people reaching out to me.

Why?

That is a complex story with more pieces than a game of Jenga, so I’ll try to give the condensed version and let the larger story unfold throughout the year. A year and a half ago, out of the blue, I received an email from a kid named Brett. I had recently met up with the Director of my university’s Career Service Center regarding a project I was working on. Brett had done the same around the same time and the Director realized that the two of us had too much in common not to meet.

Fast forward two weeks from that email to Barnes and Noble. I walked in timidly looking for Brett completely unsure what to expect. We made the awkward—

"Hi, are you Brett?"
"Yeah, are you Megan?"
"Yes! It’s nice to meet you"

—exchange, shook hands, and over the course of the next hour became fast friends. The Director was right, we had a lot in common—we both had an entrepreneurial mindset, liked helping people, and wanted to connect with other like-minded students. I left the Barnes and Noble meeting with a feeling exhilarated, I knew that coffee meeting was the start of something big.

But I never could have expected how much it would impact my life. In the last year, Brett has introduced me to a wide variety of people, helped me with various projects, and opened me up to a world of new possibilities (these are the finer details that will unravel throughout the project).

So the moral of the story is that a cup of coffee led to an unexpected friend that—like so many friendships—changed my life.

This is where 52 Cups of Coffee enters the picture. I couldn’t help but wonder what would happen if I continually tried to meet new people. Obviously every meeting wouldn’t lead to the same outcome as that fateful day at Barnes and Noble, but when you invite 52 new people into your life, it has to change somehow.

That’s what this blog is for, to track the changes and share the results of the year long experiment.

It’s going to be one wacky, challenging, educational, exhilarating, and—among other yet to be discovered adjectives—caffeinated adventure.

I hope you come along!

-meg